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  favoriteroundYou too can be a sexy superhero! All around the site you can find items marked with this adorable symbol:

It indicates that a product is one of my favorites (you’ll see it a lot- I only really talk about stuff I love!). Clicking on it will always bring you to this page. Here you’ll find all sorts of stuff I love and links to where you can get it. Looking to shop for your sexy mind too? Head over to  Bedhead Approved Reading to check out some of my book recommendations!

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NOTE: As the years have passed, a lot of products have come and gone and also I have stopped writing about products. The result? As time goes on more and more of the products on this list are being discontinued. I have considered removing those items but in the end I keep them on the list because I think it’s a fun way to remember the great stuff that is no longer with us. 

Additionally, a lot of products have been upgraded over time so some of these links go to the new upgraded versions of the products as opposed to the versions I originally wrote about.

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 Vibrators & Pulsators ★ Dildos ★ Harnesses ★ Butt Stuff ★ Penises & Prostates ★ Pelvic Health ★ Impact Toys ★ Condoms & Lube ★ Everything Else

 

Vibrators & Pulsators

 

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Lovehoney Humdinger

Featured in: “Get Off Without Going Broke : A Sex Toy Snob’s Top 10 Toys for Under $50”

Get it here:
Lovehoney

 

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BMS Factory PalmPower Wand

My Review

Get it here:
SheVibe

 

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Crave Vesper Vibrating Necklace

My (mini) Review

Get it here:
Early to Bed

 

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Doxy Wand Massager

My Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Lovehoney

 

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My Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Lovehoney

 

img_1543Doxy Die Cast Colors

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things”

Get it here:
SheVibe

 

Doxy Number 3

My Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Lovehoney

 

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My Review

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3278 Fun Factory Stronic Eins

My Review

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Featured in “The Bedhead’s Birthday Top 10 Sexy Finds List”

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My Review

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My (mini) Review

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Denia

L’amourose Denia

My Review

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My Review

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Le Wand

My Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Lovehoney

 

Le Wand Petite

My Review

Get it here: SheVibe, Lovehoney

 

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OhMiBod LoveLife Adventure

My Review

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My review

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Slimline G

My Review (I regard this more as a type of vibe I recommend rather than any one specific brand)

Get it here:
SheVibe, Lovehoney

 

Swan Wand
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My Review

Get it here: SheVibe, Early to Bed

 

Vibratex Magic Wand Plus

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

Get it here:  SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

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My Review

Get it here: SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

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 Vibratex Original Magic Wand

Featured in “5 Reasons I Love The Original Magic Wand”

Get it here:  SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

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Vibratex Mystic Wand

Featured in “The Bedhead’s 2013 Favorite Things”

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Featured in “JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things”

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Dildos

 

LELO EllaLELO Ella

My Review

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NJoy Pure Wand

My Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney


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Nobessence Seduction

My Review

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13BA73PleasureWorks Cadet

Featured in “3 Silicone Toy Companies You Should Be Checking Out”

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Tantus Goddess & Goddess Handle

My Review

Get it here:
Tantus

 

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My Review

Get it here:
Tantus, SheVibe

 

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Tantus Uncut #1

My (mini) review

Get it here:
Tantus

 

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Ursa Clear Glass Dildo With Handle

My Review

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Featured in “My 2013 Sex Toy To-Do List”

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

RAQUELVixen Creations Raquel

Featured in My (mini) Review

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Harnesses


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SpareParts Sasha Harness

Featured in: “The Redhead Bedhead’s 2014 Sex Toy To-Do List”

Get it here:
SheVibe

 

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My Review

Get it here:
Tantus

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Butt Stuff

 

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Featured in “Cool Stuff From the Cool Shops! aka So Many Dildos So Little Time”

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My (mini) Review

Get it here:
Crystal Delights

 

14BA06_01Fun Factory Bootie

Featured in: “Get Off Without Going Broke : A Sex Toy Snob’s Top 10 Toys for Under $50”

Get it here:
Good Vibrations

 

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My Review

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Self Delve Fly Agaric Silicone Butt Plug

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

Get it here: SelfDelve

 

 

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Penises & Prostates 

 

helixsynAneros Helix Syn

Featured in “5 Picks for Solo Valentine’s Awesomeness (and also Bacon)”

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

Hot Octopuss Pulse Stimulators

I haven’t written about this one yet but I talk about in in my sex and depression talks all the time!

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

16CB06-2Tenga Egg Masturbation Sleeve

Featured in “Better Black Friday Shopping @ Good Vibrations- My Recommendations!”

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

tenga-flip-hole-blackTenga Flip Hole

My review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

Wand Essentials Hummingbird/ Lovehoney Hummer Masturbator Wand Massager Attachment

As with the Hot Octopuss Pulse, I haven’t written about this one yet but I recommend it often.

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

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Pelvic Health

 

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My (mini) Review

Get it here:
Early to Bed

Kegelbell

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

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Kiwi

I’ve never written about this vibrator designed to help users overcome pain during penetration but it is beautifully designed and comes with a ton of helpful resources that are not only practically useful but also hugely educational. I’m not kidding when I say buying a Kiwi was legit LIFE-CHANGING for me.

Get it here: The Pelvic People

 

LELO-Luna-Beads-classic-kegel-exerciserLELO Luna Beads

Featured in “The Bedhead’s Birthday Top 10 Sexy Finds List”

Get it here:
SheVibe

 

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Impact Toys

 

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Featured in “JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things”

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1-8-EL-1111Naughty & Nice Plush Paddle

Featured in “Better Black Friday Shopping @ Good Vibrations- My Recommendations!”

Get it here:
The original has been discontinued but reasonable substitutes can be found

 

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Photo by SwoonKink.com

 SwoonKink Cashmere Flogger

Featured in “Cool Stuff From the Cool Shops! aka So Many Dildos So Little Time”

Get it here:
SwoonKink

 

Tantus Bido Palm Flogger

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2018 Favorite Things”

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plunge-paddleTantus Plunge Silicone Paddle

My Review

Get it here:
Tantus, Early to Bed

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Condoms & Lube

 

IMG_1404FC2 Internal Condoms

Featured in “Safety First: My Favorite Condoms”

Due to a completely baffling decision by the manufacturer FC2 condoms are no longer available for purchase and now require speaking to a doctor. It’s ridiculous and I’m sorry. 

If you are still curious about internal condoms, I found this site where there are multiple options. The Pasante seems to be the most similar to the FC2.

 

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Featured in “Safety First: My Favorite Condoms”

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

imageuniqueUnique Condoms

Featured in “Safety First: My Favorite Condoms”

Get it here:
Lucky Bloke

IMG_0492Lucky Bloke Condom and Lube Samplers

My Review

Get it here:

Lucky Bloke

 

Please Cream Lube

Please Cream Lubricant

My Review

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365Sliquid Organics Natural Gel Lubricant

My Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Lovehoney

 

prod-org-silkSliquid Organics Silk

My Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

 

Sliquid Sea Water-Based Lubricant

Featured in: “8 Things I’m Loving (or at least crushing on) Right Now”

Get it here: SheVibe, Early to Bed

 

Sutil Lubricant (ALL Varieties)

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

Get it here: SheVibe, Early to Bed

 

Uberlube Lubricant

Uberlube Silicone Lubricant

Featured in: I literally talk about this stuff CONSTANTLY.

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed

 

Wicked Sensuals Flavored Lubricant

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2018 Favorite Things”

Get it here: 
SheVibe, Lovehoney, Early to Bed

 

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Everything Else

 

Bidets (yes, just in general)

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2018 Favorite Things”

Get one here: Tushy

 

Dame Pillo

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

Get it here: Early to Bed

 

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Featured in “JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things”

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Electro-Whip Neon Wand Attachment

 

My review

Get it here: Good Vibrations, Stockroom

 

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KinkLab Neon Wand Electrosex Kit

My (mini) Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed

 

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Kinklab Power Tripper

My (mini) Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed

 

14155548Liberator Decor Fascinator Throe

My (mini) Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Lovehoney

 

ramp-blackLiberator Ramp Sex Pillow

Featured in “Killing The Mood: My Favorite Not-At-All-Sexy Uses For Sex Products“

Get it here: SheVibe, Lovehoney

 

Liberator Tristan Velvish Toy Bag

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2017 Favorite Things”

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wedge-blackLiberator Wedge

 My Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Lovehoney

 

 Love is Art Kit

 My Review

 Get it here:
Love is Art

 

Ohnut Intimate Wearable Penetration Buffer

Featured in  “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed

 

seagrapeSeagrape Bath + Body Products

I haven’t written about Seagrape but their products are wonderful. The Aches + Pains bath salts are my absolute favorite!

Get it here:
Seagrape Apothecary

 

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My Review

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prod-splashSliquid Splash Feminine Wash

My Review

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Touch Lubricant Warming System

My Review

DISCONTINUED

 

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Twisted Monk Rope

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things”

Get it here:
Twisted Monk

 

Uvee Home Play

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

I’m fairly certain the Uvee is no more. 

 

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

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