Geeking out Archive

Struggling to talk about mental health? Check out my book recs!

Hey folks! So I think we all know that talking about mental health can be tough. That’s why I’m very excited to announce that I have teamed up with Shepherd

Hey folks! As you may know, my latest book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family came out at the beginning of March and I’ve been all

When you write about sex, people send you sex toys. Seriously. Even if you don’t ask for them (YMMV on that). I know I started receiving them before I knew

As we come up on another cold and flu season I find myself sharing a piece of advice that I have shared just about yearly for probably the last 5

It feels like we’ve all been waiting for YEARS for my book (mostly because we have!) but it’s coming on March 27, 2020! Okay, sure, the release date is still

I have to come clean about a couple of things as we head into discussing the Realm Drago Lock on Dragon Sword Dildo Handle and Draken Lock On Fantasy Dragon Dildo. I

So, with the hubbub of the holidays and with my traditional post-holiday illness striking (this year I was impressive, I got sick TWICE in two weeks!) I have neglected to

STD testing. We all know it’s important and that we should do it regularly but it’s a hard thing to get super-excited about. However, last month I had an experience

Recently I had to update/delete a ton of links on my site because I’ve now been at this long enough for a bunch of stuff I love to have been

Today I’m talking about The Ersties Podcast. There’s a lot going on here, so I’ll get right down to the 5 Ws on this fabulous, piece of fun and accessible sex

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

Geeking out Archive

Struggling to talk about mental health? Check out my book recs!

Join me for the IN IT TOGETHER Virtual Book Club!

Want to Have a Sex Toy Sale? Here’s How I Did It!

Relieve Sinus Pain & Pressure with a Bullet Vibe!

The Monster Under the Bed is Coming! Help Spread the Sex & Depression Word!

GAME OF THRONES! Now that I have your attention, dildo!

The One Where I Get A Publisher

Busting Sexual Health Stigma with STDCheck.com!

The Evolution of Online Sex Shopping

The Ersties Podcast: Enjoyable Sex Ed For Your Ears