Being Cool With The Sex Archive

I Thought Porn Wasn’t For Me. Here’s How I Learned Otherwise

Fun fact: when I was in college working towards my theatre degree with a concentration in directing one of my favorite professors told us, in the context of “there are

I recently talked to my partner about how, once you’ve lived in sex positive world for a while, you start to forget that not everyone is comfortable talking openly about

Don’t yuck my yum. If you have spent any time in the sex positive world, odds are you have heard some variation of this phrase. The exact wording may vary

There are some headlines that come up over and over again in sex world and one that makes my skin crawl is “The Difference Between Porn Sex and Real Sex”

Remember when (seemingly not too long ago) the idea of casual sex was kind of taboo? For a while it seemed like everything from adult dating sites to friends with

So, here we are in month 5 (FIVE!) of quarantine and I want to talk to you about something I’ve seen a bunch of folks struggling with online: the feeling

A couple of months ago, in the midst of an interview about sex and depression, I referenced the “buffet of lubes” on my nightstand. I wasn’t exaggerating. At any given

2020 upon us and over the course of the first week of the year, I’ve seen a lot of folks making new years resolutions that are decidedly sexual. Whether declaring

STD testing. We all know it’s important and that we should do it regularly but it’s a hard thing to get super-excited about. However, last month I had an experience

Don’t yuck my yum. If you have spent any time in the sex positive world, odds are you have heard some variation of this phrase. The exact wording may vary

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

Being Cool With The Sex Archive

I Thought Porn Wasn’t For Me. Here’s How I Learned Otherwise

3 Ways To Use The Internet As Your Sexual Communication Wingman

Seriously, Don’t Yuck Each Other’s Yums

Here’s The Thing About “Porn Sex” vs “Real Sex”

Don’t Panic! Keeping It Casual Can Be Healthy

You’re Still You: Remembering sexuality is not dictated by how much sex you are having

Welcome to my Lube Buffet- The (many) Lubricants on my Nightstand

4 Tips for Making Sexual New Year’s Resolutions

Busting Sexual Health Stigma with STDCheck.com!

Seriously, Don’t Yuck Each Other’s Yums