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Being Cool With The Sex Archive

18 January 2013

Stuck in a Moment: Stop having bad sex in the name of not ruining the sex

I’m still knocked on my ass with the flu so we have some more classic Bedhead today. This piece originally ran on “The Buzz: Good Vibrations Online Magazine” on October

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15 January 2013

Dating, Slut Shaming & the Post-Coital Fist Bump

In honor of me coming down with the flu, we’re going with a little classic Bedhead today. This piece originally ran on “The Buzz: Good Vibrations Online Magazine” on September

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30 November 2012

Teenage Sex Myths- The Best Argument for Sex Ed

Because, seriously, no one seems to know how pregnancy happens One of the weirdest things I think about this time of year is the time a few years ago when

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20 November 2012

Thoughts on The Psychology of Slut

Last week a bunch of folks shared a fabulous video called The Psychology of Slut created by Kathryn Stamoulis, PhD. When I saw it I was writing a piece for

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04 October 2012

Be Prepared – Like a Safer Sex Boy Scout

“Nothing is a bigger turn-on than having to go to CVS in the middle of the night” – No one to anyone, ever Raise your hand if you’ve ever been

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24 September 2012

Stupid Cupid: More Fun with Online Dating

I just got my 2nd message from my online dating site telling me that I was almost out of storage and had to erase messages. I started hacking away at

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17 September 2012

Strap it Up: A not-stupid guide to condoms

Condoms. I don’t think they’re on anybody’s “stuff I love” list but I’d put money on them being preferred to unplanned pregnancies and STIs so we use them and if

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10 September 2012

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places: Playing the Online Dating Game

Last week we had some fun with my latest foray into the world of online dating. We all had a good laugh but, seriously, measurements, naked pics and infidelity notwithstanding

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06 September 2012

Not Ok, Cupid, Not Ok!: 2.5 days of online dating lunacy

  This week I changed online dating sites (there’s a story there, you’ll hear it next week) I put my profile on the new site around midnight on Sunday. It

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

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