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09 August 2018

There is No Reason to Gender Sex Toys Part 1: Seriously, It’s completely unnecessary

One of my favorite pieces of feedback I have ever gotten after teaching came from a student in a class I taught during the University of Tennessee’s Sex Week in

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05 July 2018

Celebrating 6 Years of The Redhead Bedhead With a New Site Addition

On July 4th The Redhead Bedhead had its 6th anniversary. These last 6 years have flown by and I can’t believe how much time has passed.  Now, I could say a

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28 June 2018

5 Tips For Writing When Your Brain Doesn’t Want To

I am a writer, a writer writes. In my case however, I am also someone with a history of depression, someone with a diagnosis of Hashimoto’s disease, and someone who

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30 January 2018

SHUT IT DOWN: Why I (Legit) HATE Valentine’s Day

A while back I shared a tweet about an idea that I still think is pretty good I once saw an article proposing the movement of Christmas to late February

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19 January 2018

Having Sex In Public, Comfort, and Letting Go of “Should”

I have a long distance partner who I see a couple of times a year and with whom I have a lovely ongoing email correspondence. One feature of this is, perhaps obviously,

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19 December 2017

2017 Best of Bedhead: Posts, Podcasts, Appearances & More!

Welcome to my fifth annual Best of Bedhead post! I cannot believe it’s my fifth time doing this! For 3 years this was pretty straightforward: I would set out to

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16 September 2017

Getting Really, Really Real About My Own Depression

For the last couple of years I’ve been doing a lot of writing about depression– how it can affect people, how to navigate it, ending the stigma around it… I

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08 July 2017

We Get to Be Where We Are: My Trip to the Guelph Sexuality Conference

So, as you may know, a couple of weeks back I attended the Guelph Sexuality Conference. I sat down today to write the traditional “I attended a wonderful conference, had

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05 July 2017

Dildos, Depression,Touring, and Teaching: 5 Years of The Redhead Bedhead

As impossible as it is for me to believe my baby, The Redhead Bedhead turned 5 on July 4, 2017. If we want to get technical, my first post didn’t

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01 May 2017

Thanks to SheVibe, I Grew Up To Be Wonder Woman!

JoEllen drawn as Wonder Woman, holding a sword, battling a monster with sharp teeth and glowing eyes that is rising up from under a bed text reads "JoEllen Notte Takes on The Monster Under The Bed" top of the images features the SheVibe logo

What do you want to be when you grow up? That age-old question that, frankly, took me until my mid-thirties to figure out for real, has always played a starring

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About JoEllen

JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

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