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When a Sex Writer Doesn’t Want to Have Sex or Write

CW: depression, anxiety, discussion of body image/weight I am a sex writer. That’s my profession. Sure, I tend to present it as part of a list: “Sex Writer, Educator, Mental

As we come up on another cold and flu season I find myself sharing a piece of advice that I have shared just about yearly for probably the last 5

On July 4th The Redhead Bedhead had its 7th anniversary. In years past I have marked this anniversary with tons of pictures, emotional stories, cool website additions, and, as was the

Have you seen Sex Education on Netflix yet? It is absolutely delightful and incredibly well done.Featuring, as its main character, Otis, the teenage son of a sex therapist (played beautifully by

Well, here we are, it’s time once again for my annual “Best of” list and, as has become the tradition with said list, my annual look at what I did

In my years writing about sex I have dealt with so many products and my relationship with those products has grown and evolved. From the very beginning when I was

“You must be done with your book by now!” “When is the book coming out?” “So, where is this book?” Now that I am YEARS into the process of writing

Hey folks! This week I have something very special for you. Last month I had the pleasure of meeting Steph Auteri on my trip back East and, frankly, she’s

As you read this I am en route to a wedding in Pennsylvania. It’s the wedding of a family member and thus I will be seeing a lot of family,

Welcome to part 2 of my series “There is No Reason to Gender Sex Toys”. Last week we talked a bit about some of the reasons people apply gendered language

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

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When a Sex Writer Doesn’t Want to Have Sex or Write

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7 Years of Bedhead: A Different Kind of Anniversary

My House Looks Like The One In Netflix’s Sex Education

2018 Best of Bedhead: Posts, Podcasts, Appearances & More!

Killing The Mood: My Favorite Not-At-All-Sexy Uses For Sex Products

So, Where’s This Book? Process, Progress, & a Preview of The Monster Under The Bed

Guest Post: I Am Not the Sex Writer You Think I Am by Steph Auteri

Nonmonogamy, Sex Writing, and My Family: Reflecting on Love, Luck, & Acceptance

There is No Reason to Gender Sex Toys Part 2: No, It won’t sound “weird”, “awkward”, or “confusing