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The Redhead Bedhead: Sex Educator JoEllen Notte
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JoEllen Notte

24 April 2026

Trauma on Trauma: The Harm of Forced Silence

The burden of carrying trauma chips away at us and the practice of shushing people who try to speak up makes the existing pain bigger, badder, and uglier. Let’s talk about talking about trauma!

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04 August 2025

Did Watching Jason Mantzoukas on Taskmaster Change Which Men I Want to Date? Maybe.

I’ve always found the concept of developing crushes on random famous people to be one of the funniest and yet vaguely mortifying things we as human beings do. According to

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24 June 2025

The Power of Pleasure: How Joy Sustains Us in Uncertain Times

When a crisis strikes the natural response is to drop everything and tend to the emergency at hand. This makes sense. It would be weird, not to mention extremely dangerous,

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02 October 2023

Struggling to talk about mental health? Check out my book recs!

Hey folks! So I think we all know that talking about mental health can be tough. That’s why I’m very excited to announce that I have teamed up with Shepherd

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18 April 2023

Join me for the IN IT TOGETHER Virtual Book Club!

Hey folks! As you may know, my latest book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family came out at the beginning of March and I’ve been all

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13 March 2023

IN IT TOGETHER Giveaway!

Hey folks! My publishers over at Thornapple Press are kindly giving away 10 paperback copies of my new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family. This exciting

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07 October 2022

IN IT TOGETHER is Available for Preorder!

It’s a big day, folks! My second book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family is available for preorder! The book will be published by Thornapple Press

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03 January 2022

2021 was a LOT! Let’s talk sex, overwhelm, and depression- FREE Event!

Conversations with CQ: The Monster Under the Bed—Talking Sex & Depression with JoEllen Notte Tuesday, January 11 at 5pm PT, 8pm ET FREE! COVID upticks. Holiday drama. Fear of what the future holds. Now more than ever, depressive feelings as well as diagnosed depression can touch all aspects of our lives--very much including our sex life. Staff Sexologist Carol Queen is so honored to catch up with author JoEllen Notte--her book about sex and depression, The Monster Under the Bed, features informed research, practical tips and real-life examples--indispensable for people with depression and those who love them. Register here: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_2vcVZ7AFTLS-hLi5lvm0Zg Sponsored by Womanizer!
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30 October 2021

4 Dating App Lessons From My Past to Help Your Dating App Future

Looking around on social media, it looks like a lot of my vaccinated friends are getting ready to head back into the dating world. Personally, I’m in no shape to

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30 September 2021

Depression and Community Support Interview

My new book, In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Family, and Friends, is trucking along and while it was largely inspired by the interviews I did for the old

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About JoEllen

JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

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