Redhead Bedhead Approved Shopping

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It indicates that a product is one of my favorites (you’ll see it a lot- I only really talk about stuff I love!). Clicking on it will always bring you to this page. Here you’ll find all sorts of stuff I love and links to where you can get it. Looking to shop for your sexy mind too? Head over to Bedhead Approved Reading to check out some of my book recommendations!

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Vibrators & Pulsators ★ Dildos ★ Harnesses ★ Butt Stuff ★ Penises & Prostates ★ Kegel Weights ★ Impact Toys ★ Condoms & Lube ★ Everything Else

Vibrators & Pulsators

Blue Venus/Lovehoney Humdinger

Featured in: “Get Off Without Going Broke : A Sex Toy Snob’s Top 10 Toys for Under $50”

Get it here:
Lovehoney

BMS Factory PalmPower Wand

SheVibe, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Crave Vesper Vibrating Necklace

My (mini) Review

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Good Vibrations, Early to Bed, Spectrum Boutique

Doxy Wand Massager

Get it here:
SheVibe, Lovehoney, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Doxy Die Cast

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SheVibe, Peepshow Toys

Doxy Die Cast Colors

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things”

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SheVibe, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Doxy Number 3

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SheVibe, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Fun Factory Stronic Drei

DISCONTINUED: The updated Stronic Pulsators are available at SheVibe

Fun Factory Stronic Eins

DISCONTINUED: The updated Stronic Pulsators are available at SheVibe

Janine’s Pirates Cove Rocket Vibrator

Featured in “The Bedhead’s Birthday Top 10 Sexy Finds List”

Get it here:
Amazon

Jimmyjane Form 4

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Jimmyjane Iconic Wand

My (mini) Review

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L’amourose Denia

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L’amourose Rosa

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Le Wand

Get it here:
SheVibe, Good Vibrations, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Le Wand Petite

Get it here: Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

OhMiBod LoveLife Adventure

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O-Wand

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Betty’s Toy Box

Slender G/Slimline G/Tula 2.0

My Review (I regard this more as a type of vibe I recommend rather than any one specific brand)

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SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

Swan Wand

Get it here: SheVibe, Early to Bed,Lovehoney, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Vibratex Magic Wand Plus

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

Get it here: Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Peepshow Toys, Betty’s Toy Box, Spectrum Boutique

Vibratex Magic Wand Rechargeable

Get it here: Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Early to Bed, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Vibratex Original Magic Wand

Featured in “5 Reasons I Love The Original Magic Wand”

Get it here: Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney, Spectrum Boutique

Vibratex Mystic Wand

Featured in “The Bedhead’s 2013 Favorite Things”

Get it here: Vibratex

Vibratex Mystic Rechargeable Wand

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things”

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Peepshow Toys

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Dildos

LELO Ella

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NJoy Pure Wand

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Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Nobessence Seduction

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SheVibe, Peepshow Toys

PleasureWorks Cadet

Featured in “3 Silicone Toy Companies You Should Be Checking Out”

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Good Vibrations

Tantus Goddess & Goddess Handle

Get it here:
Tantus, SheVibe, Spectrum Boutique

Tantus Echo & Echo Handle

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Tantus, SheVibe, Peepshow Toys

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Tantus Uncut #1

My (mini) review

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Tantus

Ursa Clear Glass Dildo With Handle

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Vixen Creations Mustang

Featured in “My 2013 Sex Toy To-Do List”

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SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Vixen Creations Raquel

Featured in My (mini) Review

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Harnesses

SpareParts Sasha Harness

Featured in: “The Redhead Bedhead’s 2014 Sex Toy To-Do List”

Get it here:
Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Peepshow Toys

Tantus Nurse Connoisseur Strap-On Harness

Get it here:
Tantus

Butt Stuff

Crystal Delights Crystal Minx Faux Tail Plug

Featured in “Cool Stuff From the Cool Shops! aka So Many Dildos So Little Time”

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Crystal Minx Faux Pony Tail Plug

My (mini) Review

Get it here:
Crystal Delights

Fun Factory Bootie

Featured in: “Get Off Without Going Broke : A Sex Toy Snob’s Top 10 Toys for Under $50”

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Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Early to Bed, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Nobessence Romp

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Self Delve Fly Agaric Silicone Butt Plug

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

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Spectrum Boutique

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Penises & Prostates

Aneros Helix Syn

Featured in “5 Picks for Solo Valentine’s Awesomeness (and also Bacon)”

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

Hot Octopuss Pulse III Stimulators

I haven’t written about this one yet but I talk about in in my sex and depression talks all the time!

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SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Tenga Egg Masturbation Sleeve

Featured in “Better Black Friday Shopping @ Good Vibrations- My Recommendations!”

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SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney, Spectrum Boutique

Tenga Flip Hole Black

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

Wand Essentials Hummingbird/ Lovehoney Hummer Masturbator Wand Massager Attachment

As with the Hot Octopuss Pulse, I haven’t written about this one yet but I recommend it often.

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney

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Kegel Weights

Je Joue Ami Kegel Weights

My (mini) Review

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SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Kegelbell

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

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Peepshow Toys, Betty’s Toy Box

LELO Luna Beads

Featured in “The Bedhead’s Birthday Top 10 Sexy Finds List”

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SheVibe, Lovehoney

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Impact Toys

Fun Factory Bück Dich

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things”

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Naughty & Nice Plush Paddle

Featured in “Better Black Friday Shopping @ Good Vibrations- My Recommendations!”

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The original has been discontinued but reasonable substitutes can be found

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SwoonKink Cashmere Flogger

Featured in “Cool Stuff From the Cool Shops! aka So Many Dildos So Little Time”

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SwoonKink

Tantus Bido Palm Flogger

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2018 Favorite Things”

Get it here: Tantus

Tantus Plunge Silicone Paddle

Get it here:
Tantus, Early to Bed, Spectrum Boutique

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Condoms & Lube

FC2 Internal Condoms

Featured in “Safety First: My Favorite Condoms”

Due to a completely baffling decision by the manufacturer FC2 condoms are no longer available for purchase and now require speaking to a doctor. It’s ridiculous and I’m sorry.

Get it here (these links will remain live as long as my affiliates have them in stock):
Lucky Bloke

Lifestyles SKYN Polyisoprene Condoms

Featured in “Safety First: My Favorite Condoms”

Get it here:
Early to Bed, Lucky Bloke, Spectrum Boutique

Unique Condoms

Featured in “Safety First: My Favorite Condoms”

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Lucky Bloke

Lucky Bloke Condom and Lube Samplers

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Please Cream Lubricant

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Good Vibrations

Sliquid Organics Natural Gel Lubricant

Get it here:
SheVibe, Lovehoney, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Sliquid Organics Silk

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Sliquid Sea Water-Based Lubricant

Featured in: “8 Things I’m Loving (or at least crushing on) Right Now”

Get it here: Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Spectrum Boutique, Early to Bed, Lovehoney, Peepshow Toys, Betty’s Toy Box

Sutil Lubricant (ALL Varieties)

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

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SheVibe

Uberlube Silicone Lubricant

Featured in: “Lube In My Hair: Sex Geek Life-Hacks“

Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lucky Bloke, Spectrum Boutique

Wicked Sensuals Flavored Lubricant

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2018 Favorite Things”

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Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Early to Bed, Betty’s Toy Box

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Everything Else

Bidets (yes, just in general)

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2018 Favorite Things”

Get one here: Tushy

Dame Pillo

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

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Betty’s Toy Box

HammerFell Armoury Polished Stainless Steel Claw

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things”

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Electro-Whip Neon Wand Attachment

Get it here: Good Vibrations, Stockroom

KinkLab Neon Wand Electrosex Kit

My (mini) Review

Get it here:
Stockroom, SheVibe, Spectrum Boutique

Kinklab Power Tripper

My (mini) Review

Get it here:
Stockroom, SheVibe

Liberator Decor Fascinator Throe

My (mini) Review

Get it here:
SheVibe, Spectrum Boutique

Liberator Ramp Sex Pillow

A review that used to be mine but has since been replaced by someone else’s (I’m not bitter about it)

Get it here:
Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Peepshow Toys

Liberator Tristan Velvish Toy Bag

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2017 Favorite Things”

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Liberator Wedge

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SheVibe, Peepshow Toys, Spectrum Boutique

Love is Art Kit

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Betty’s Toy Box

Ohnut Intimate Wearable Penetration Buffer

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

Get it here:
SheVibe, Betty’s Toy Box, Spectrum Boutique

Seagrape Bath + Body Products

I haven’t written about Seagrape but their products are wonderful. The Aches + Pains bath salts are my absolute favorite!

Get it here:
Seagrape Apothecary

Sliquid Smooth Shave Creams

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Sliquid Splash Feminine Wash

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Touch Lubricant Warming System

Get it here: Betty’s Toy Box

Twisted Monk Rope

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2016 Favorite Things”

Get it here:
Twisted Monk

Uvee Home Play

Featured in “JoEllen’s 2019 Favorite Things”

Get it here:
Lucky Bloke

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.