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o, as you may know, the Njoy Pure Wand is a thing of legend. I had read about it, talked about it and gazed upon it longingly but had never used one myself. So, obviously, when I faced with the opportunity to try one out, I kind of jumped at the chance.
Now, I’m not going to lie to you, I was a bit apprehensive about the Pure Wand. My g-spot (I’ve come to prefer the term Mass of Goodness for all of the parts that make folks with bodies similar to mine orgasm, but that’s another post) and I are not thoroughly bonded and with all the hype behind the toy itself (so much talk of squirting) I was afraid of being tremendously let down.
I was clearly being silly.
So, what’s the deal with this toy?
It’s pretty straight-forward. It’s a medical-grade stainless steel dildo. I had the pleasure of meeting Greg, the founder of Njoy at CatalystCon and what struck me was his commitment to quality. He got extra fired-up talking about making sure the toys meet his stringent criteria for smoothness and perfection.
How does it work?
It’s a dildo. No moving parts, no motors, no buttons. It’s got bulbs at each end, one is an inch in diameter, the other is 1.5 inches and it’s about 8.5 insertable inches.
How does it feel?
It’s steel: cold, hard, badass. I seized the opportunity to use a silicone lube (I hesitate with most toys) and that felt amazing. The Pure Wand holds temperature remarkably well which is a lot of fun. Going on a tip from a reader I filled a bowl with warm water and a bowl with cold water and alternated the sensations- awesome.
No, seriously, how does it feel?
Okay, I was a little nervous. I frequently struggle with even feeling g-spot stimulation. I’ve made significant headway with the Ella and the Stronic toys but still… So, the first time I used the Pure Wand alone I heeded Epiphora’s warning and put down some towels just in case (When Piph says to do something, do it), spent some time with my beloved Hitachi (Yeah, try to make me stop calling it that!) and then proceeded with the small end of the Pure Wand. Almost immediately I said “oh!” Yeah, the hunting-around-until-I-feel-something that usually accompanies g-spot play for me was conspicuously absent. We got right to the point and it was awesome. I decided to try the bigger end and, although I would have doubted that it was possible, that felt even better. Even the smallest movements felt incredible. Thrusting, rocking, moving it like a butter churn- it all worked. Finally, for fun, I added a clitoral vibe and that resulted in an orgasm that I can only describe as more dimensional than any I’ve had before. I felt that thing in my hair. Now, I didn’t squirt (honestly, I tend to get a little scared or something and back off when I feel that coming… don’t know why) but I can see that the Pure Wand is a likely candidate for bringing that about.
Full disclosure- I also used the Pure Wand with a partner and had less exciting results but I think that was the result of where it landed in that evening’s slate of activities as I have used it, quite enjoyably, since.
UPDATE 10/2/13: At CatalystCon I mentioned that I “have a Pure Wand and a g-spot and am not convinced I’m using them together as well as I can” and a fellow sex geek volunteered to help me out with that (sex geeks are good that way). By the time I left LA on Monday, the Pure Wand was officially the toy that made me squirt. Yup, that happened.
UPDATE 6/30/14: This has become my go-to g-spotting toy. I now travel with it (it may be in a bag by the door right now because I’m traveling this week) and introduce partners I really like to it. (My version of meeting the family). I’m still not squirting all over the place all the time (Epiphora says I give up too early… dude, stuff feels really intense!!!) but I am leaving some messes behind, as it were. Also, amazing orgasms, so, whatever.
It’s funny that when I first wrote this I didn’t love using the the Pure Wand with a partner and now I do that quite often. It’s a testament to not dismissing stuff after one try. I love this thing.
Things I’m down with:
- Um, orgasms.
- Terrific for temperature play. Can be warmed or cooled.
- Orgasms
- With Njoy you know you’re getting a high-quality product.
- Orgasms.
- I love medical-grade stainless steel! It’s sexy, it feels good and it’s easy to clean- it’s, perhaps obviously, non-porous (woo!) and can be cleaned with soap and water or boiling water.
- Orgasms
- It can also be used as ad hoc home security as I did my first few nights in my new apartment. It’s the only toy that gets me off AND makes me feel safe.
Yep, I slept with it in my bed, just in case I needed to fight anyone off with my super-dildo.
Things that make me go grr
- Umm…. It’s a little heavy? Oh, who am I kidding? There’s nothing about this toy that displeases me.
Specifications
- 1″ and 1.5″ bulbs
- Approx 8″ end to end and 10″ along the curve
- 8.5″ Insertable Length
So, where can you get one? So glad you asked! A couple of places!
Get it here:
SheVibe, Early to Bed, Lovehoney
Thank you to My Secret Luxury for sending me the Pure Wand!
This product was provided to me free of change in exchange for my honest review. My review policy is simple: I will never lie about liking a product if I don’t (in fact I probably won’t even write about it) but when I do like something it’s hard to get me to shut up about it.
I’m glad my “bowls of water” trick went well! I agree that Njoy is always an excellent product. Enjoy! 😉
Orgasms.
Thanks for bringing that up, I almost forgot. Orgasms.
Edited to add: squirting orgasms.
I, too, have issues with the weight. Plus the way I use it, I do actually get hand cramps after too long. But it’s a small price to pay for how it feels.
I also tend to have inconsistent results with a partner. I think it’s similar to if I were to move a toy around to stimulate the prostate, vs using my fingers or vs him doing it. It’s a blind act, like that game where you blindfold people and have one person scream out directions to accomplish something in Survivor.
Thank you @dangerouslilly:disqus! Your comments made the partner in question feel better about the whole thing…apparently they didn’t believe me.
I also have a pure wand and a g-spot, but I don’t think I’m using them to their full potential. Can you share what advice your sex geek friend gave you??
For me it was a matter of me backing off too soon when I was trying on my own (the intensity would freak me out) so, truth be told, my sex geek friend actually stepped in and used the wand on me. Yeah, I pretty much needed someone else to do it… but then I understood the sensation better, it really helped.
My fiance and I picked this up after reading your review. We have been using it and it results in great sex due to the inflamed gspot. Did you have any clitoral stimulation for the orgasm? We bring in the Hitachi to make her cum but I think that’s where our flaw lies. She always feels like she is going to explode but always gets disappointed.
If you are going to be using them simultaneously I’d opt for something small and rumbly like the Tango or Touch (both are from We-Vibe).
We’ll have to look into those. Did you use clitoral stimulation when you finally squirted or was it purely from gspot?
So, in the instance I discuss here it was purely g-spot. I tend to find it more enjoyable with clitoral though.
I have a feeling that’s EXACTLY my problem, too (it’s like, “Uhh, I think I’m going to explode if I keep doing this so I’d better lighten up and settle for a familiar orgasm”). Damn. I wish I had a sex geek friend who could help me, now. Haha! Thanks!
I want to understand the way you use the term “backing off” Do you mean pressure, speed, or both (intensity)? I imagine it’s like you’re pumping your g-spot and then stop to finish with the clit. When you squirt, did you keep consistent pressure or bear down instead of “backing off”? Faster or? And when you say you felt like you were going to explode do you mean you wanted to push? I’ve heard that it’s better to try to hold off as long as possible and then push when you simply can-not take any more. Please be as descriptive as possible. (clinically) I’m just trying to really understand the process a bit better. I got my wife to squirt once or twice but I’m having trouble duplicating the results. I try to communicate well by asking questions and so on and have a willingness to learn but she’s very shy in talking about these things. In fact during sex she is completely turned off by conversation. I can talk to her but she doesn’t like to talk. Either way, she’s stated on more than one occasion how much she liked it when I did it right and wants that experience again. I bought one of these toys recently hoping it might help and was wanting to understand/explain the process a bit better since they’re notorious for having a learning curve.
1. By “backing off” I mean “stop using the toy because it feels too intense”
2. I’m not going to “be as descriptive as possible”. This is not a “how to squirt/make other people squirt” post- it’s a review of a toy, a review I have updated twice. I have done my due diligence here. There are plenty of resources on this topic available in the world that don’t involve you asking a woman who (if you look at my site you will see this is true) has never given any indication she was amenable to explaining her masturbation to you in detail. I share an awful lot of myself on this site – please don’t do the internet equivalent of jumping between my legs with a flashlight to get a better look.
So, I just ordered this (as well as the njoy 11 & the medium enjoy butt plug). Question: Would you recommend this wand to be used before a long penetration session, or after? Thanks
Oh, I feel like that’s going to be a matter of preference. I feel like there have been times where the wand has served as great warm up to finish with penetration and vice versa. Also, though, there’s the possibility that one activity might leave one too sensitive for the other (at least for a little bit). That’s something to experiment with.