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22 March 2014

Lobbing Love Bombs from a Safe Distance

So, you may have noticed I haven’t been around the social media world much the last couple days. If you’ve been looking closely you may have noticed that the only things I’ve posted have been images and they’ve all been tagged #lovebombs. So, what gives? Well, last weekend I was away at CatalystCon and I had some big revelations while I was there. This was one that I tweeted before I  left to come home:

I have a lot of to-dos after #ccon. I just realized the biggest may be spring cleaning. I need to clean out some negativity. #spaceforgood

— JoEllen Notte (@JoEllenNotte) March 17, 2014

I have realized how easily I get bogged down and negative when there’s negativity around me and after I was home for a few days I realized that my constant presence on the internet made it so that there was an open door for conflict and negativity to come right into my home. So, what’s a girl to do?

I could rant and rave and rail against other people. I could tell them that they are all doing it wrong and demand that they all become more positive so as to fit the vision I have for what the world should be. I could say “I want to not deal with this and so you must change!”

Well, that sounds perfectly dreadful. I wouldn’t enjoy that and I’m pretty sure no one else would either.

I thought about it for a bit and I decided to do two things, both inspired by my wonderful and brilliant friend Lauren Marie Fleming. First I pulled myself off social media, almost all of it. Second I decided that I should put some positivity out into the world.

I was thinking about my favorite thing about being at CatalystCon– being around the people who make my heart swell, the people who inspire me, the people who I love and support as much as they love and support me. My sex geek family. I wanted to make that feeling of love go on. So, for the last couple of days I have been sending out pictures via Instagram and the app on my phone that lets me post to Twitter without actually going on it. I’ve been posting pictures of things that make me smile– my dog (she lives in Boston and I miss her little face!), awesome places in Portland, pretty things– anything that makes me feel some love. I’m hoping some of it is making you all feel some love too.

JoEllen hugging a tall man in a Dr. Who t-shirt, the man's face is not visible
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A kitchen table covered with items including kale, eggs, almonds, a measuring cup, and a vibrator
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I’m not sure how long I’ll keep lobbing #lovebombs from a safe distance away from the internet fray but for now I hope I’m making some of you smile.

#love #hugs #lovebombs


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2 Comments

  1. Dangerous Lilly Reply
    March 22, 2014 at 9:10 am

    I get it, I do, but social media is the only way we can virtually touch fingertips like ET. You’re missed.
    I get it, but you’re missed. I wanna be selfish and say COME BACK RIGHT NOW YOUNG LADY but you know. I won’t do that 😉
    #lovebomb you are awesome and loved.

  2. Kara_Sutra Reply
    March 22, 2014 at 11:16 am

    Thank you for posting this. It’s so hard not to get caught up in everything, especially when you feel tied to it in such a personal way and so helpless while those around you are being treated unfairly. Although I couldn’t possibly remove myself from social media (THE HORROR!), I think I could stand to practice a bit of what you’re preaching. #lovebomb right back at ya beautiful!

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