Gettin’ Riled Up Archive

Scary Sexy: Why sexy Halloween costumes are terrifying

In 2004 Mean Girls summed up sexy Halloween costumes thusly “Halloween is the one night a year when a girl can dress like a total slut and no other girls

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Why We Need Sex Ed Now (For the Visual Learners)

You may have noticed that I feel very strongly about the fact that we (and by “we” I mean “Americans”) need to be better educating our children when it comes

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Teach Your Children Well: Sex Positive Parenting

Last week I was sailing along having a good time talking music and sex (like I do…check it out) when suddenly I stumbled upon a completely unexpected lesson. Here’s the

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Burning Bush: Does Pubic Hair Have to be a Hot Button Issue?

The first time I ever even heard of extreme below the belt hair removal was in a magazine article in 1997 (I tried to find it for you but, you

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Get up, Stand up: The one where I feel ways about stuff

Truth be told, I had planned to keep it light for the first post but the world disagreed so, here we go. Perusing the news this morning I was greeted

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.