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07 November 2014

Taking on Sexual Side Effects with Kinkly.com

Have you ever seen the lists of possible side effects for anti-depressants? They are pretty long and, what I’ve always found interesting is that they are fairly detailed, naming very

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17 October 2014

I Tried a Product Everyone’s Mocking- My Take on Scroguard

Update 11/20/16: Unfortunately Scroguard seems to have died a quiet death rather than evolving. Last year I was going to a play party and thinking about how several STIs such as

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22 July 2014

F*ck Yeah! Talking About Consent

The topic of consent has been weighing heavy on my mind this last week. I’ve watched people wrestle with it, spring into action around it, snark about it, debate it,

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20 February 2014

Not Knowing is Half the Battle

One of the best moments of my sex geek career happened a couple of weeks back on a Friday night. Now, a lot happened that night. I taught at the

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04 October 2013

Dorian Gray, Salem Witch Trials and the Thousand Cock Stare

I just read a horribly misogynistic piece called something like “How To Tell if She’s a Slut” (no, I’m not linking. I don’t want to give him the clicks. I regret

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30 August 2013

The VMAs: Where Bodily Autonomy Goes To Die or Fine, I’ll talk about Miley

Look, everyone’s been talking about it all week so you don’t really need a long diatribe from me about the Miley Cyrus VMA performance but I did want to talk

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22 May 2013

Dildology: Sex Toy Safety Superheroes

My world is a happy place. In my world sex toys have never hurt me*, toy companies are honest, forthcoming and committed to making bad-ass, body-safe products and the sex shops

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21 May 2013

Think “If you’re not sure if you’ve had an orgasm, you haven’t”? Shut up.

It’s been a long time since I’ve ranted so, you know, brace yourselves. Please stop saying “if you’re not sure if you’ve had an orgasm, you haven’t” Stop it. Just

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14 May 2013

Me, Planned Parenthood & 72 Hours Without Health Insurance

I’ve been a Planned Parenthood supporter for the entirety of my adult life. I’ve also had some form of insurance (on and off) for the entirety of my adult life.

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08 May 2013

The Worst Thing About The Teen Mom Porn – It Was A Tight Race

So, last night I watched the Teen Mom porn and there was a lot of awful but I don’t want to spend a ton of time talking about this so

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About JoEllen

JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

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