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Back to School: Boost Your Bedroom Know-How This Fall

 

Green Apple on BooksIt’s been more than a decade since fall saw me heading back to school but that has never stopped me from seeing each September as the start of the new academic year. Seriously, this is when I set goals, make resolutions and generally get amped about stuff. This year’s quest for sexy knowledge has made this back-to-school time even more fun! As I may have mentioned (roughly elevnety billion times) I live super close to a Good Vibrations outpost (what’s up Brookline!?) and I have gotten to take a couple of classes in the last few weeks. In addition to amusing the hell out of my co-workers (It’s fun to go into work and say “So, spent an hour with a dildo in my mouth last night. How are you?”) this has enabled me to meet amazing educators like Megan Andelloux and Reid Mihalko (third consecutive post mentioning Reid…I’m thinking of making this a drinking game, I say “Reid Mihalko” you do a shot, I effuse about his coolness you chug- who’s in?) and learn so much! I’ve expanded my knowledge base on anatomy, communication, orgasm, lubrication, fellatio, vibrators and trivia- ejaculate leaves the penis at approximately 35 miles per hour, or faster than you can drive in a school zone (Thanks, Megan!) Doesn’t that sound awesome? Check out the Continuing Sex Ed page for learning opportunities- also, if there is an awesome shop in your area please let me know about it, I’d love to have some more geographic diversity up in here.

Now, because I know some of you prefer to do your grown-up learning from the comfort of home and because I am a bit of a bibliophile (I know, I’ve been way remiss in updating the Bedhead Approved Reading page- soon, Bedheads, I promise!) I’ve got some books to recommend to keep those dirty minds growing. If you’re not a reader, have no fear these are all keep-by-the-bedside-use -for-sexy-reference gems. Without further adieu I present you with:

The Bedhead Bedside Book Hall of Fame

The Good Vibrations Guide To Sex

Clear, comprehensive and makes no assumptions about the gender or sexual orientation of the reader. From basic anatomy to kink and everything in between, it’s all in here- I just love this book!

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This one is out of print but you can get it from Thriftbooks!

 

The Big Bang: A Guide to the New Sexual Universe

Brought to you by the folks at Nerve.com (RIP) I love this one because it, like I, believes in keeping your sense of humor about sex. Sexy, irreverent, hot, humorous and informative. What’s not to love?

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This one is out of print but you can get it from Thriftbooks!

 

Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex

Every bit as informative and accessible as one would expect a book from the folks at Babeland to be, also though, this book is GORGEOUS!

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This one is out of print but you can get it from ThriftBooks!

 

The Complete Kama Sutra: The First Unabridged Modern Translation of the Classic Indian Text

The great-granddaddy of all sex books! This one is an essential and, despite what you may have heard, it’s not just wild sex positions folks!  There are a lot of translations/editions out there but this one is my personal favorite.

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So, what do you think? Do you have a favorite book that’s not on the list? Is there a great shop in your city that I don’t know about? Let me know!

Okay folks, now get out there and get learning!

 


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  1. ErogenoUS Reply
    September 13, 2012 at 1:05 pm

    Please let me know what kind of workplace you have that this, “So, spent an hour with a dildo in my mouth last night. How are you?”, can happen? LOL

    I think my cow-orkers would flip a wig if I dared to say that and I’m pretty bold!

    • The Bedhead Reply
      September 13, 2012 at 2:12 pm

      I work at one of the world’s coolest places surrounded by a team of awesome women and led by a strong, feminist, sex-positive boss. Did you see my tweet today about when I told her about my site? I got a sparkly tattoo for it! That said, clearly this was said in a very quiet moment when no clients were around.

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

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