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Condoms, Cancer & Scare Tactics – How One Company Is Using Fear to Sell

Hey folks, what would you think if I suddenly announced that a study (that I funded) had found that all sex blogs apart from mine cause computer viruses and I,

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I Tried a Product Everyone’s Mocking- My Take on Scroguard

Update 11/20/16: Unfortunately Scroguard seems to have died a quiet death rather than evolving. Last year I was going to a play party and thinking about how several STIs such as

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22 Things I’ve Thought About in the Days Since the UCSB Shootings

I’ve been shell-shocked in the wake of the UCSB shootings. The violence was horrific, yes, but I’ve found myself horrified as much by the internet response as by the shootings

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The How I Met Your Mother Finale Forgot the Rules About “The One”

If you are still, now, days later, trying to avoid finding out how the How I Met Your Mother finale went down, don’t read this. You’ve been warned.  On Monday

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Thoughts on The Psychology of Slut

Last week a bunch of folks shared a fabulous video called The Psychology of Slut created by Kathryn Stamoulis, PhD. When I saw it I was writing a piece for

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Scary Sexy: Why sexy Halloween costumes are terrifying

In 2004 Mean Girls summed up sexy Halloween costumes thusly “Halloween is the one night a year when a girl can dress like a total slut and no other girls

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Stupid Cupid: More Fun with Online Dating

I just got my 2nd message from my online dating site telling me that I was almost out of storage and had to erase messages. I started hacking away at

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Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places: Playing the Online Dating Game

Last week we had some fun with my latest foray into the world of online dating. We all had a good laugh but, seriously, measurements, naked pics and infidelity notwithstanding

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Not Ok, Cupid, Not Ok!: 2.5 days of online dating lunacy

  This week I changed online dating sites (there’s a story there, you’ll hear it next week) I put my profile on the new site around midnight on Sunday. It

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Burning Bush: Does Pubic Hair Have to be a Hot Button Issue?

The first time I ever even heard of extreme below the belt hair removal was in a magazine article in 1997 (I tried to find it for you but, you

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

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