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Reviewing My Online Dating Past to Help Your Online Dating Future!

 

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I’m getting ready to head back into the online dating world  (or at least I’m getting ready to start thinking about it). In honor of that, today we’re talking a stroll down memory lane with some of my past (mis)adventures in online dating!

So, when I first started dating online I was on the wrong site entirely- I kept meeting people who were looking for very different things than I was. I finally pieced it together, switched sites and crafted my profile accordingly – with some help from some Reid Mihalko and Cathy Vartuli. Check it out –Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

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My first 2.5 days on my new online dating site yielded some interesting results. Here’s where I tell you about them, with pictures – farm animals are involved- Not Ok, Cupid, Not Ok!

A couple weeks later, during my second round of message purging, I made, for your amusement, a ridiculous message Hall of Fame – Stupid Cupid

The first time I felt pushed hard enough to actually block someone (I probably should have done that sooner) led to some big feelings and important revelations. –I Had to Block Someone on OkCupid Last Night And Here’s What I Learned

If you've been paying attention lately, you know what this outfit means...

If you’ve been paying attention lately, you know what this outfit means…

Now that I’m heading back out there, I’m re-reading this one from a couple weeks back to get myself psyched – 5 Reasons Why Online Dating is Awesome! Yes, Seriously.

Okay, I’m ready…

Okay, almost. I’m going to take some time to hide out in CA with some friends first.

But then, it’s on y’all.

xoxo

RHBH

 

 


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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

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