When we were kids the universal sign for “do you want to be my friend?” was toy sharing, right? So, why is it that as adults we don’t tend to think about sharing our grown-up toys? I know the issue can be fraught. Questions ranging from “will my partner be insulted?” to “how do we even use this thing together?” can make the whole thing seem a bit daunting. I’ve put together this list of 5 tips to help you work some toy-sharing into your routine.

1. For the love of god, talk about it first!! Before you go busting out your Hitachi Original Magic Wand and your favorite suction cup dildos it’s probably a good idea to bring the idea up to your partner. I know, I know “But Bedhead- awkward!!” People, here’s the thing- talking about your sex makes your sex better. Also, the aforementioned “issues”? So much easier to dodge with a little talking. If one of you already has a toy you like, tell your partner about it before you whip it out and then maybe find. If either or both of you are new to toys start off by talking about the idea of bringing some into your play time. Talk about what you think you may want to do with your toy and then…

2. Do a little research. Yeah, I’m a geek… but I stand by this one. The sex toy market is huge! There are so many different products that work in different ways, toys made out of different materials – hell there are even some totally unsafe toys out there – it helps to learn a bit before you buy. Check out Passionate U for some awesome tutorials and scoot over to my Superhero Sex Shops page for some shops that will help teach you a thing or two about the wide world of sex toys.

3. Buy lube too. Just do it. Trust me here. You should probably have some anyway. With toys you can use most any kind of lube- traditional wisdom says you can’t use silicone lube with silicone toys but we now know that if both items are actually silicone you can- if you are concerned do a patch test on an inconspicuous part of the toy first.

4. Experiment. Once you’ve found your toy (or toys) try some stuff out! Vibrators can be used during foreplay and intercourse! Dildos and butt plugs can add extra dimension to penetrative play. Sensation and impact toys… well, so many options there! Try some stuff, see what works.

5. Have fun! I know, so much talking and studying and trying things and stuff… it sounds like work but we are talking about toys after all! So, come on, play!

Want some more fun adult sex ed? Check out out friends at Passionate U- they have videos, blog posts and webinars on everything and anything sexy, it’s like naughty night school.

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