Does anyone else sometimes think if the sex doesn’t feel like this you’ve somehow failed?
Oh, orgasms. How we’re having them, when we’re having them, if we’re having them at all seems to be a topic of great consternation. Single or multiple? Clitoral or g-spot? With or without ejaculation? Even was that one or not? You can’t even walk through the supermarket without being accosted by some magazine yelling (yes, they totally yell) about your “best orgasm EVER!!!!” It’s a lot to take on-board. I, personally, am someone who spent much of my life in a state known as “pre-orgasmic” (more on that from our friends at “Go Ask Alice!”) so I am, to say the least, still learning. I’m actually finding the topic a lot less stressful now that I’ve started to read and learn and take apart how it all works. It seems less like a mystery that will be revealed to me if I’m really lucky and more like a cool think we can all geek out about. To that end, today I want to share some of my favorite orgasm-related finds with you. I warn you, most of it is way more geeky than sexy, because that’s how I roll. Enjoy!
How Stuff Works: How Orgasms Work
If you love words like “oxytocin” this is for you. Truth be told, this occasionally veers into some stereotypical “women are like this” stuff which I don’t love but it is a fun, digestible look at orgasm anatomy.
Mary Roach: 10 things you didn’t know about orgasm
I love a TEDTalk and I love Mary Roach (author of Bonk)! This one answers orgasm questions you maybe didn’t know you had and there are pigs so, you know, that’s awesome. Plus, Mary Roach is funny as hell.
Sex Nerd Sandra: Orgasms for Everybody!
This is my second Sex Nerd Sandra reference this week (the first was over on the Good Vibrations blog– shameless plug!) This episode features Megan Andelloux (who I may mention a lot) and is full of awesome orgasm science and humor. It makes the topic super-accessible if you are someone who has felt overwhelmed by the orgasm brouhaha. Also it features one of my favorite orgasm quotes of all time from Megan on folks who tell others “If you aren’t sure if you’ve had an orgasm then you haven’t” – it’s kind of a smackdown – LOVE it.
Alyssa Royse: It’s Just an Orgasm
So, this one entered my life yesterday. Literally. But it is a great look at satisfying sex when orgasms are taken out of the equation. It made me think a lot about the amount of pressure we place on ourselves, our partners and our experience when we get all goal-focused.
Draw your own conclusions.
Okay folks, that’s what I’ve got for today! Does anybody have any thoughts? Any favorite resources? Any questions? Let me know in the comments!
