Geeking out Archive

Come See Me – Upcoming Events with The Redhead Bedhead!

Hey all, I’m heading back to the Midwest on Friday- I’m so excited! You should come out and see me. We can learn stuff or knit stuff or both! Check

Share your story and support the Superhero Sex Shop Tour Thank you to everyone who contributed to this project- it has been such a blast reading and sharing your stories.

The more I talk to folks about sex the more I see folks struggling with some of the same stuff over and over. High up on this list is sexual

I spent the weekend in Los Angeles attending the ANME convention. From kicking my trip off in the car with one of my favorite Swingset gals to crashing Sex Geekdom

It’s been a long time since I’ve ranted so, you know, brace yourselves. Please stop saying “if you’re not sure if you’ve had an orgasm, you haven’t” Stop it. Just

Hey Bedheads! So, here’s a handy little guide to your contraceptive options. If you want more information about the forms of contraception listed here check out my buddies at Bedsider.org.

So, from the folks at Mamiverse we have this lovely look at orgasms for women (I tried calling them “female orgasms” like the graphic does but kept going”orgasms don’t have

I firmly believe you should keep your friends close…and sometimes that calls for some lube. Seriously though, I recently received a request to do a little talking about lubricants and

Here are some fun facts about sex. I know I’ve always wondered how many calories it burned. Also, if you are hesitating on providing cunnilingus to your partner, read this.

Okay folks, clearly I want you protecting yourselves wherever you are but just in case you’re curious I found this handy little “heat map”of STDs to give you a little

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JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

Geeking out Archive

Come See Me – Upcoming Events with The Redhead Bedhead!

Story Time: Tell Me About Your First Time in a Sex Shop!

Ninjas, Mimes & Hot Sex- The Bedhead’s Quick Guide to Dirty Talk

I spent the weekend at a sex toy conference – ANME & Me

Think “If you’re not sure if you’ve had an orgasm, you haven’t”? Shut up.

The Ultimate Guide To Contraception

Orgasms for Women. That is All.

The One Where I Talk About Lube A Whole Lot (& A Giveaway!)

Facts About Sex: Because you never know what they’ll ask at bar trivia

Where The STDs At?!