Body Basics & Beyond Archive

The One Where I Talk About Lube A Whole Lot (& A Giveaway!)

I firmly believe you should keep your friends close…and sometimes that calls for some lube. Seriously though, I recently received a request to do a little talking about lubricants and

Okay folks, clearly I want you protecting yourselves wherever you are but just in case you’re curious I found this handy little “heat map”of STDs to give you a little

Hey folks! I’m reporting to you live from my folks house where I am basking in the cozy holiday glow. That’s right, I said basking, it’s happening. Anyway, the other

About a year and a half ago someone I love very much got kicked in the balls by his girlfriend. It was totally an accident but it was kind a

Because safety is sexy! We talk a lot about the merits of being safe in our erotic endeavors but it seems folks aren’t always 100% clear on the hows and

Because the moment after a condom breaks is a bad time to be fuzzy on facts The world is an imperfect and constantly changing place. Things don’t always go according

Oh, orgasms. How we’re having them, when we’re having them, if we’re having them at all seems to be a topic of great consternation. Single or multiple? Clitoral or

Condoms. I don’t think they’re on anybody’s “stuff I love” list but I’d put money on them being preferred to unplanned pregnancies and STIs so we use them and if

On July 1st 2011 after years of changing prescriptions, screwed up refills and weird emotional side-effects I bid the world of hormonal birth control adieu and rolled out my

Several of my friends have never seen one, a few live in fear of encountering one and one refuses to have any interactions with them at all. I am referring

JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken here at The Redhead Bedhead.

JoEllen has led workshops nationwide on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and dating as an introvert. She has toured sex shops, spoken at length on dildos, and even started a sex school but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex. Check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and her extensive writing on sex and depression.

JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit, and the Playground Conference

JoEllen’s first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having was published by Thorntree Press in March 2020. Her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family was published by Thornapple Press in March 2023.

Body Basics & Beyond Archive

The One Where I Talk About Lube A Whole Lot (& A Giveaway!)

Where The STDs At?!

12 Days of Christmas Contraception: A Birth Control Christmas Carol

Balls Out For Cancer or “A Kick In The Nuts Saved Someone I Love”

The Ultimate Guide to Safer Sex

Emergency Contraception: Don’t believe everything you hear

Come on! Orgasms, Orgasms, Orgasms!

Strap it Up: A not-stupid guide to condoms

Ms. T – I pity the fool who messes with my IUD

Dr. Foreskin or: How You Can Learn To Stop Worrying and Love the Hood