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Posted by on Jan 14, 2014 in Body Basics & Beyond | 7 comments

Talking About the Cervix (without pregnancy or cancer)

Talking About the Cervix (without pregnancy or cancer)

Recently I got curious about my cervix. Why, you ask? Well, I’ve been having a lot of fun sex (hooray for cute boy who makes me smile) and I noticed that a certain position that I enjoy thoroughly was resulting in my cervix getting bumped some times but not others. I realized that I didn’t know much about the cervix and so I decided to do some research which quickly became frustrating when I realized that 99.876% (rough estimate) of the talking that gets done about cervixes involves either getting pregnant or cancer. I wanted to know about my body, just existing- what the heck, maybe even experiencing pleasure- but it seemed that unless it was part of a cautionary article about HPV (hell, we’re in the middle of “cervical health awareness month” which is basically, according to this, just “HPV month”) or an instructional post about how to get knocked up no one wanted to discuss it. As usual, twitter understood where I was coming from:

So, yes, the cervix does just exist even when stuff isn’t happening to it and if you’re anything like me you know very little about it.  Today we’re talking cervical facts, what it looks like, feels like and does and even why mine sometimes gets hit in that one position and sometimes doesn’t. So here goes-

Getting to Know the Cervix

What does it look like?

Picture a puffy disc with a depression (a dimple, if you will) at its center. True to form I, in looking for images to illustrate the appearance of the cervix, landed on food:

This is a bialy. Basically a bagel with a dent instead of a hole.


This is a bialy. Basically a bagel with a dent instead of a hole. It is delicious. It also looks like a cervix.


and crafts:


This, perhaps more accurate and appropriate, one is made of felt for the Felt Cervix Project




To see actual images of the cervix check out the Beautiful Cervix Project.

What does it feel like?

So, you can actually feel your own cervix! Reach inside your vagina with a finger and you’ll be able to feel something moist and smooth, kind of  like if you take you finger and touch the inside of your cheek. Depending on where you are in your monthly cycle what it feels like can vary- sometimes it’s like the tip of your nose, sometimes like softly pursed lips.

What does it do?

The depression at the center of the cervix is called an “os” and it’s the hole through which menstrual blood flows, and, as it’s the opening of your cervix, it can dilate to allow for the birth of a baby. This is also the opening through which sperm passes unless a barrier such as a condom, diaphragm or cervical cap is in its way.

Why does Bedhead’s sometimes get hit in that one position and sometimes not?

So, the cervix moves during the menstrual cycle! During “infertile” times (usually around the time of your period), it cervix will be low, firm, and closed*, with dry or sticky cervical mucous.  As you approach ovulation, the cervix moves upward, becomes softer and opens up a bit. The cervical fluid increases and becomes watery or slippery.  Check out this illustration:

From this we can surmise that the times when I find my cervix being bumped are the aforementioned “infertile” times and thus times when my cervix is lower, firmer and drier putting it more in the line of penetrative fire (as it were) and more likely for that bumping to smart a bit. Ta-da! Science!!!

Again, shout out to the Beautiful Cervix Project where you can find a set of photos of one woman’s cervix on each day of her entire cycle.

Why did I make that last question so specifically about me?

Because everybody is different! Some cervixes sit lower or higher all the time. It’s possible that the position I enjoy so thoroughly during the time that (as I know it now) I’m ovulating, would feel great for you all the time or would never feel good for you ever. So, while that’s the answer for me it might not be the answer for you.


So, that’s my cervical story. What do you guys think? Did I miss anything? Let me know

 *If you’ve had a baby, you will likely have a slight opening even during the infertile period.

  • Sunny Megatron

    I’m a cervix weirdo. I routinely check how it’s doing when I’m in the shower. Is it high today, low today? Is it dialated a bit today? Am I starting to get ovulation mucus? When I was pregnant I checked it obsessively. Wow, I’ve never told anyone that LOL!

    • The Redhead Bedhead

      I think the first thing I saw from you online was a post about a speculum and glow sticks and a glowing cervix…I don’t know if it was yours or not but it was definitely glowing.

      • Sunny Megatron

        Hahahaha! Yep, that was me! Speccula and flashlights are awesome for observing what the cervix does at the point of clitoral orgasm (we observed a quiver, it opening and a little white stuff dripping out). We don’t have sex, we have SCIENCE! ;)

      • Sunny Megatron

        Oh wait, I get what you mean! LOL it was my pic but not my cervix. A friends cervix. Mine has not made it to the internet yet!

  • Sunny Megatron

    I think I’m a cervix weirdo. I routinely check it every day
    in the shower. Is it high today, low today? Dilated? Am I
    starting to get ovulation mucus? When I
    was pregnant I checked it obsessively. I
    don’t think I’ve ever told anyone that before!
    Thanks to you, I don’t feel so weird now LOL

  • Victoria Reuveni

    The cervix also changes position depending on arousal. The more we know.

  • Stephanie R.

    Something I find really weird about my own cervix is that it is very “stubborn.” When I first started having sex, I thought that I had a very short vagina, but the truth is that it just takes a while to stretch to its full length. I know that’s not that unusual, but I’ve had partners tell me that it was shorter than other women they had been with. I’m starting to think that when people say they have a small/short vagina, what they mean is that it doesn’t stretch much, which can change with practice. Epiphora’s “Black Hole” post certainly proves it!